You do not need an account to use this site. Every listing and every guide is free to read, and nothing is hidden behind a sign-up. This page covers what is actually worth doing first, what to prepare before you contact the desk, and how to be listed yourself.
Start by reading, not by writing
The people who do well here are almost always the ones who spent half an hour reading before sending anything. Three pages are worth it before you approach anybody.
- How it workswhat the desk does, where the process can stop, and why introductions are passed by a person.
- The safety guidewhat to keep private, and the approaches that cost people money. This is the one that saves you something.
- The community guidelineswhat is expected, and what ends access.
Then browse properly
Decide three things before you search: the age range you mean, the area that works for you, and the kind of arrangement you are actually looking for. People who skip this spend weeks in conversations that were never going anywhere. The search tips help, and locations is the better starting point if the area matters most.
What to have ready for the desk
When a listing interests you, the desk describes you to that person. It has only what you provide, so a few lines of substance beat a paragraph of adjectives.
- Who you are
- First name, your real age, and the area you are in. Not a nickname and a guess.
- What you are looking for
- The kind of arrangement, how often you could realistically meet, and whether you need discretion.
- What you are offering
- Company, time, reliability, whatever is true. Requests that are entirely one-directional are the ones most often declined.
- Which listing
- The page address or the name, so the desk is not guessing between similar listings.
Be honest in all of it. An honest answer somebody did not want beats a pleasant one that collapses in the second week, and the desk cannot repair a description you made up.
Asking to be listed yourself
Tell the desk you would like a listing and what you want it to say. You decide what appears publicly, and you can have it changed or withdrawn at any time by asking, no reason required, and no waiting period.
Keep out of a public listing anything you would not want a stranger to have: your exact address, your workplace, your identity number, or photographs you would mind seeing elsewhere. A listing is a public page on the open internet, and it will be read by people you never hear from.
What not to do first
- Do not send money to anybody for any reason, before you have met them in person.
- Do not post your phone number in a comment. It is harvested within hours; it is also the most common reason a comment is refused.
- Do not open with what you expect to receive. It reads as though the person is interchangeable, and it is answered accordingly.
- Do not send explicit messages or images unprompted. It ends the conversation and may end your access.
- Do not pay anyone claiming a fee to connect you. Our only prices are on the pricing page.